blackrose

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Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Haters gonna hate & the bullshit that goes with it

There are moments in time when I regret ever writing fanfic. They typically come when I get hate'o'grams in the form of reviews. Now, let me explain first what I mean. I am not opposed to other people's opinion. I am not one who thinks my writing is amazing or other words I know I suck.I know not everyone appreciates the endings I place on story. I know this. I also knew that when it was revealed that Bella was not taking Edward back in The Space Between I would get some hate over. What you may not know is that I agonized over that decision. I didn't set out to write that story as an non E & B ending, it happened that way. I went over many time with my friend Anne over how I could put them together, but no matter how I looked at I couldn't. For me the deciding factor was what would I do?
Many of you know What's Done Cannot be Undone as well as The Space Between comes from a very personal place and I think that's part of the problem in these fics. They are emotional. They push button. They strike a nerve in people and most of all they seem to draw people in for whatever reason. I know this and I am always thankful for my readers, but there are times I wish I had never written theses stories. There are moments when I read a review and wonder why a person would be so fucking ugly to another person over a damn fanfic story. There are times when I am reminded by people that my place is not to write MY story, but instead I am here to perpetuate the fucked up fantasy that they have created in their mind that a man can treat you any way he wants and if his name is Edward fucking Cullen you should drop to your knees to suck him off in thanks for treating you so badly. There are times when I am reduced from a person who is writing a story in their free time, taking away time from real life, kids, husband and what not to a fucking court jester sent to entertain, sent to wrote what they want to read, not how I see a story going.
I know, haters are gonna hate. I know this. People get on the computer and hide behind made up names. Some people get on the Internet and think its ok to be the world's biggest cunt to another person just because they don't have to say it to that person's face. It's disturbing.
I guess my rant here, while pointless, is to remind others that when you send a review try to remember that a real person will be reading. Try to remember that its ok to not like a story or its ending, but to use the writer as your own personal punching bag because they "wrote the story wrong" is fucking crazy. Most importantly remember when you send a ranting review brimming with anger and spite I can promise you that any real compliments or complaints you have over the story are dismissed without another thought since it just looks like you are being crazy about a free story that was written in someone's spare time. Be kind to people out there since its the haters that drive good writers away and haven't we lost enough of them?
For you haters reading this I have to ask, do I entertain you now?

6 comments:

  1. I agree with you wholeheartedly! I admit to being upset that B&E wouldn't be getting back together, but you are right: in the end, Edward had abused Bella far too much for her to take him back. I am sorry that you were vilified in one or more reviews, but you're a great writer and your story was wonderful. Don't let hater's get you down. It's your story and your true fans will love your work regardless!

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  2. I agree with you. 100%. I've never been disappointed with your stories .. but actually with any story in general. I DON'T GET THIS! I DON'T ... It's something out of my ability of understanding (sorry .. i know that I am making a lot of mistakes here!!! I would like to be able to express myself properly because this is a serious point for me) Sweetie... I write in the italian fandom ... and I had crazy experiences ... they made me mad! I pulled my stories just for not having to argue anymore. Now I write on a private blog like this .. and things are much better for me .... but I beg you ... don't surrender like I did. You are so good in what you do .... think about the thousands of us that follows you .. without any will to get in your stories as co-writers (I always say .. You don't like my story? Write one that you like by yourself!) Because this is the point in the end ... You write for free. You have an amazing way of describing feelings and situations, you put soul and time in these stories YOU ARE THE WRITER AND THE ONLY OWNER of what you write ... so THEY ARE WRONG! NO MATTER HOW YOU LOOK AT IT! Big hugs!!! Cristina.

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  3. Mamasutra you couldn't be any more right!!! These people hide behind a computer and write nasty things and feel like there opinion is so special! They would never say the things that they write to your face, COWARDS! I am beyond thankful that you wrote ASB and WCBDU. You DEFINITELY DO NOT SUCK!!! Both stories also touched a very personal emotion within me and the ending is real! It is what I would do. I guess that these haters would want their husband/bfriend to cheat on them, degrade them and abandon their family only to welcome him back with open arms! Stupid Crazy Bitches! If they can't handle a cheater fic then don't read it! It's easy, peezy, lemon squeezy!

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  4. I don't understnd how people read these stories and take it as a personal event that is happening to them. I get caught up in the stories that I read. I cry, laugh, swoon, get pissed, hell and sometimes turned on. The reality is it's a STORY. Mama your a fabulous writer and every writer generally brings there own personal experiences into their writing. I would hate to see you stop writing because people think that what they read is actually happening to them, and if that was the case would they really want to take a man back that fucked someone else? So, please don't stop writing. I have no idea how you all as writers are able to read a rude review and let it "roll off your back", I give you all so much respect for having the balls to put it out there in the first place, let alone have some douchebag cut you down for it. So I would like to say "Fuck em all!". We have lost to many good writers due to idiots. Please don't let us lose you too. Love ya! (Sorry for the rant lol)

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  5. Wow MamaSutra! My heart goes out to you girl! You write your stories how you want and then you have these cowards who (and you are right) hide behind their computers and tell you that your story is not right? Please like they know what is in your mind! Both Stories are very insightful and I have enjoyed reading both of them. They both are very realistic and unfortunately it brought out some very nasty natured people! I just can't understand! If you don't like a story don't fricken read it! It is so simple! Keep up your good work and know that I will always be behind your stories 100% <3

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  6. You rock!!!! Fanfiction has been a guilty pleasure of mine forever! I have a "to be read" list and stories that I always read as soon as they update. You my dear are never on my "to be read" list! I get so excited to see your e-mails to say you have updated. Myself, I think I would have been disappointed if Edward and Bella got back together in "The Space Between". He was an ass to her and didnt appreciate her when he had her. That story ended just the way it should have IMHO. Please dont let "the haters" or should I say "cowards" get you down. You are a wonderful writer and have a gift and the courage to put yourself out there! And always remember... for every "hater" there are a thousand "very satisfied, smiling, crying, excited, hopeful, and very LOYAL readers!

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